Your story can be BIG — like the death of a someone you love… the end of a relationship… a job… or something smaller… like a conflict with a family member, friend or colleague.
Grief and loss causes you to feel dead inside. You feel scared and alone. You feel vulnerable and hopeless. Your joy and security is gone. Uncertainty looms.
Grief is hard. It sucks.
The struggle to heal and move forward is the same for most of us…
- You struggle with your emotions…
- You get curious about what you’re feeling…
- You grapple with your story until you get to a place of peace. And when you find your place, you become extremely protective of it…
- And you live this process every day, until it becomes a practice and creates nothing short of a transformation in your life.
Growing strong after a loss is how you cultivate a whole heart, but the process of figuring out how to begin the journey to healing and moving forward with your life is scary and it WILL test your courage.
As I write this, the famous Theodore Roosevelt quote about striving valiantly and daring greatly comes to mind…
“It is not the critic who counts: not the [wo]man who points out how the strong [wo]man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the [wo]man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends [her]himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if [s]he fails, at least [s]he fails while daring greatly, so that [her]his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.”
Speech of Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910
What if you could find peace with grief and loss?
Would you be willing to try?
When you can’t control what has happened, you can choose to armour up, pretend you’re tough, think you’re protecting yourself from the hurt… or you can choose comfort. But you can’t have both at the same time.
Choosing to armour up does not serve you. The weight of it is just too heavy and it won’t protect you. Instead, it keeps you from healing and moving forward.
Finding healing and peace is a journey. You WILL stumble along the way. You’ll know good moments and bad ones. Yet, you must trust that you can do it, even when you have no idea how or how long it will take.
Because when grief and loss knocks you off your feet, you CAN get back up with more courage and tenacity than you can imagine.
The journey will be hard. Still, you have EVERYTHING to GAIN in trying. You have EVERYTHING to LOSE if you don’t try.
If you care to heal and move forward…
- Do it for yourself.
- Do it for those you love and for those who love you.
- Do it because you want and deserve a life filled with hope… with love… with light… and with joy.
You don’t have to get there by yourself
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